Already Missing Her

 

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Shane wanted to be near his sister when she went away to college. Photo by William Stitt on Unsplash

 

I’ve been telling you about Kylie for the past few weeks but what about my darling young man Shane? He did amazing in his exams and as a result got into the school of his choice. He is happy with his results, but I don’t see any eagerness in him to start at this new school. He has been going to the pool with Kylie and much to my surprise had been working with her coach to increase his times and overall stamina. Despite all these things I’ve noticed that my son is quieter than usual.

Every day he talked to Mr. Divine and I saw a joy that took over my son whenever he had one of these conversations. He also seemed to tag along wherever his sister went. I noted that her boyfriend didn’t mind Shane being with them but I still worried about him always being around older kids.

One day when Kylie was out and he seemed to be playing on his iPad I walked by. What I noticed wasn’t a game but rather a website. Slowly I walked up to him. “Shane, what are you doing?”

He put down his iPad and gave me a sad smile.

“Research. I’m looking for schools for kids my age near where Kylie may be going to school.”

His words shocked me but I managed to keep it in. “You found anything good?”

“One or two but it all depends on where Kylie ends up going to university.”

“True, but even if you don’t go to school in the same state you can still visit Kylie often.”

“I guess,” he said with a sigh.

“If you want to go to school near Kylie you can but the school has to be more than just near Kylie. It needs to do the things you are interested in.”

Pouting Shane cuddled against my side. “I’m going to miss her when she is gone mom.”

“Anything is possible so don’t worry. We’ll start looking for proper schools for you so by the end of summer we will have a plan. So let me see these schools you are interested in.

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Fishing Trip

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Anything is possible for my babies. Photo by Baim Hanif on Unsplash

From our trip to visit several colleges with Kylie last year, we go information as well as contacts of the persons who ran the sports programs and the chairs of the departments in the programs she was interested in. We had also asked her coach to do an evaluation of her performance in the pool and the potential for improvement. He told us that with her continual improving times she had the potential to gain a position on a college swim team.

It seems that her coach connected with the coaches at several of the universities with the aim to get her a scholarship and that has been going very well. With Kylie’s swim times combined with her grades so far she has been shortlisted. Right now we are waiting to get in her results to up her chances for a scholarship. For the time being, she has provisional acceptance to four colleges and she is excited.

Now the summer is here and Kylie has been having an amazing time. She has been spending time with her young man but since she has so much free time she has decided to intensify her training. More than once my young lady has come home exhausted because of the rigorous training she had to endure. When I asked her if she didn’t want to take it easier, Kylie assured me she has a reason for her new training regime. It seems she had talked to several of the international swimmers who came in to use the pool during their offseason and she took note of their training routine and was determined by the end of the summer she would be on par with them lap and distance wise. She is close to reaching her goal and we’ll know for sure by the end of summer.

A Million Emotions

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Just a fraction of what I’ve been feeling for the past few months.

Excited and insanely busy in a whirlwind of chaos. That is the best way to describe what my life has been like for the past few months. Things have finally settled and I’m looking forward to starting to post updates to my blog again.

A lot has happened since is haven’t been active online and I’ll be trying my best get you up to date about all the happenings. So, expect a new post in the coming week. I’m so tempted to just blurt out some of what happened but I’ve waited this long, so taking the time to tell you properly is the plan and I’m sticking to it.

So look for WordPress blog post and Facebook post in the coming weeks and I’ll get you back on track with what myself and my family have been up to.

Settling Into Place

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Free and ready for whatever comes next.

From our conversation on the beach, Mr. Divine and I have been doing a lot better. That talk seemed to have opened a floodgate of conversation to make sure that we are staying on track as a couple. We sit down and just try to talk about everything as much as possible and make sure we were on the right page or just the same page about the things that might be a complication.

With Kylie enjoyed her new school and both of them studying for upcoming exams, things were settling back into a quiet state in our home. A while back Kylie had told me was interested in taking several of her exams early so she had started to do extra lessons in preparation for those exams. That had been going well and it was a major help towards her applications into university.

The children’s sporting activities have brought back up the question of the possibility of them having the opportunity to move to another country so they can further their education and ranking in the sport. We all had a long talk and the plan is to wait for Kylie’s results and see if there is any early interest from the universities that she wants to go to. Her swim coach has also been looking into scholarships at her choice universities and several other schools that would teach the courses that interest her. We would know the results in a few months and from there we would revisit the idea of moving as a family or if we would let Kylie go off on her own and have an adventure. Time would tell.

Married Life

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Sometimes you get in your own way.

One thing I know about marriage is that it isn’t easy to move your way forward, both the spouse and I have to be on the same page as well as reading the same line. That being said, Mr. Divine and I had our first disagreement of sorts. The fact that my husband traveled so often for work like a worm that was festering in the back of my mind. When he was away he was always in contact with both myself and the children, but its the fact he is not here that gets to me.  Add to that, my mind drifts to the fact I was clueless about what my Ex had been doing all those years and the insane scenarios start to take over my mind.

 

I was so in a grip of confusion that when Mr. Divine called, I made up so many stupid excuses not to talk to him. For most of his trip, I avoided his calls and stewed. I had let the past and all the things that my Ex had been doing and I didn’t know about and came up with the possibility that Mr. Divine may be doing that same thing to me. All the while I was in my head, the kids had spoken to Mr. Divine and he had cut his trip short. I was beyond shocked when he showed up and called me out of work.

Decisions….Decisions

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Decisions, decisions. What choice should she make?

My oldest Kyle took the opportunity while we traveled last summer to visit several colleges and universities she was interested in furthering her studies at. The visits were informative and she came home with a significant amount of details she now had to consider. She had time, but she didn’t want to leave it so late that she missed out on any potential scholarships. The thing is, with majors, locations and offers to consider it was a lot to process.

After a long back and forth with myself and Mr. Divine, Kyle narrowed down both the careers path she was interested in and the universities that would best cater to her needs. From there it was a matter of getting applications in and talking to the coaches. With two exams already done with top passing grades, my baby is one step closer to getting what she wants. I can hardly wait.

Step Two

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The kids relaxing between stops.

Everything at our house is as settled as it can be and everyone is ready to escape away on vacation. We are scheduled to leave for Atlanta in two days and it is arranged that my sister and one of my brothers will make periodic visits to the house. Knowing they would do that gave me a peace of mind.

 

Excitement was pulsing through the children when we got on the plane and by the time we got off it was like they were about to burst. Our first stop was at Mr. Divine’s house and when we drove up his driveway my breath was taken away. The house was a huge ranch style property with oversized windows and a wrap around porch. I loved it at first sight and when we opened the doors and went inside we greeted by wide open, uncluttered room with amazing furniture and fixtures.

Exhausted we were pleasantly surprised to find a fuller stocked fridge and better yet a warm meal in the oven waiting for us. Mr. Divine explained that he had a housekeeper that came twice a week when he was out of the country and every other day when he was home. He had called ahead and she had made sure that everything would be ready and waiting for us. We crashed that night, and when we work up in the morning and headed to the kitchen we were meet by the smells of breakfast being cooked. There we met Nina, a pleasant older woman who worked for Mr. Divine for the past ten years looking after him and his house.

“So you are the woman who stole my boss’s heart. You take care of him now,” she warned before turning back to the bacon she was frying in the pan.

I smiled and I knew she could see it in the flawless shine of the backsplash behind the stainless steel stovetop.

“Yes Nina,” I said sincerely. “I would be stupid not take care of the good man I’ve been gifted with. He is a rare and priceless treasure.”

She watched my reflection for several moments before she went back to her cooking and I got the plates and started setting the table for breakfast.

After breakfast, the exploration began. We spent several days in Atlanta and the nearby environs exploring and seeing what was available. From there we started out our road trip, making a roundabout way to Florida. There we visited the Theme Parks, the Everglades and even took the chance to go to The Keys. It was amazing and we loved every minute of the driving, discovering and exploring.

While in Florida we also stopped at three of the universities that offered swim scholarships and visited their campsite and found out as much as we could about their programs. The kids were as excited as when they went to see the universities in Atlanta. From there we drove from Florida to New York stopping to visit the sites and the NCAA1 rated universities along the way.

When we got to New York we paused and some sightseeing. After all, we were in New York City and there was a lot to see. We visited every site we could, then go the train up to Washington D. C. From there it was more exploring and taking in the sights.

This was the most intense and amazing trip I’ve ever been on and we kept going until we finished off in Toronto, Canada. As we relaxed and had lunch one afternoon, we talked to the kids to see what they enjoyed most about the trip and the places we visited.

“Do we have to decide?” was the question we got in reply.

From that, all we could conclude was that we had given the kids the travel bug and they had it bad.

“That was the most amazing trip I’ve been on,” insisted Kyle and Shane nodded in agreement.

“Can we do something like that again but maybe in Europe?”

Mr. Divine and I laughed. We’ll see what can happen”

When we boarded the plane on the way back to Atlanta we were chatting and planning for what next. Where to take a trip to and what colleges were worth a more intense look at. We loved every minute of that trip and I couldn’t wait to do another one.

Family Getaway

I’m skipping forward a bit but here is what we got up to on a trip. We spent a few days in Canada just to see if the children might want to consider going there for college. Click the link to see the video of a part of our adventures. Let me know what you think.