Yes or No

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Mr. Divine made a few calls later on that night then came back to me regarding some information about the young man that had my Kylie smitten. It seems the young man was, in fact, an amazing boy, his father on the other hand, had the reputation of being a true bastard. This situation would have to be dealt with delicately.

If there was one thing I learned from being involved with Walter is that it is a dangerous thing to get into a family you are not totally comfortable with. My ex-husband had come from a secretive family that was always fighting with each other and as a result, he pulled me away from and isolated me from my family. If we allow Kylie to go out this guy, she would learn a lot about people and that all family structures and dynamics we’re not the same.

“What do you think?” Mr. Divide me as we sat on the couch.

“I want to protect my baby but if she is to go off to college I won’t be there to tell her yes or no when it comes to the boys that she meets. She tried to find out as much as she could about him which shows she is thinking rather than blind following or jumping into situations. She needs to keep growing up and discovering.”

Mr. Divine sighed and hugged me closer. “Yes, our baby is growing up, learning.”

“So yes to this date? I asked with a smile.

“Yes,” he said with a sigh. “Before that date, she has to go for a refresher self-defence course. In fact, I’m going to send a message now asking if she can be fit in for Wednesday.”

I laughed at his comment but I knew he was serious. It was better to be ready and aware that clueless and caught. Our young lady was taking another step in her development from there we’ll see what is next.

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She Is Growing Up

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After the kids went to bed Mr. Divine and I had a long talk about Kylie’s request to go on a date. She was getting to that age and we needed to allow her to start to understand boys and the way they behaved.

“I want to hide her forever,” whispered Mr. Divine as we moved outside to enjoy the quiet night while we talked, ignoring the that TV played in the background. I climbed between his legs and settled against his chest as his arms cuddled me against him.

“I know,” I replied but she needs to know and understand and experience. The fact she talks to us is important and I would like to keep it that way.”

“Yes,” he said with a sigh.” There is so much insane stuff going on daily it makes you frightened to let your children out the door.”

“The thing is by not letting them out we will do them a huge disservice. There will come one day when we are not there to do everything for them and to protect them.”

“My wife, the brilliant one,” whispered Mr. Divine against my neck.

“Do you your undercover investigation thing. I know that will be the only way you will be completely comfortable,” I murmured.

Mr. Divine’s laughter vibrated against my cheek. “You know me much too well.”

Young Men

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Young love on the horizon.

Deep breath people, but my young lady has a young man who is interested in her and she seems to like him as well. She came to Mr. Divine and I full of jitters wanting to find out if she could to a movie then for ice-cream with him. I looked at her almost biting off her finger waiting for an answer.

“Relax Kylie,” urged Mr. Divine. “Tell us about the guy. Why do you like him?”

She sank down into the nearby chair and started to tell us everything. How she met, Radley. The way he behaved, why she thought he was so awesome. It was easy to see that she was captivated by this guy.

“He asked me to go out a while ago but I told him I had to think about it first.  I wanted to discover who he really was as a person first. He was patient and he waited on my decision, also he wasn’t nasty about it like some other boys who asked me out before.”

I smiled, understanding her caution. After seeing my last marriage I know she wouldn’t just jump into a relationship.

“We’ll have a talk and let you know in the morning .”

She looked at us and smiled. “Okay,” then dashed off back to her room.

“A date,” said Mr. Divine with a sigh pushing fingers through his hair.

“Yes. A date.” I replied and cuddled into his arms. Things were about to get interesting.

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Kids Say it Right

KidsSayItRightI can’t be sure, but I have a strong suspicion that ‘silly season’ is in the air and is soon about to take over. I’m sure you are wondering what ‘silly season’ in, well let me explain. When an election is called and the supporters of the various parties go from acting half stupid to full idiot then the season is in full effect.

Right now an election has not been called, but several politicians have been making sure they have been seen out and about in the community, plying their trade so to speak. Why do I refer to what they do is a trade? It’s simple. Where were any of them three and a half years ago? Like water in the Sahara difficult,  near impossible to be found no matter now had you tried. So what now? That’s a good question.

With the start of canvasing, that is people coming around knocking on your door begging for votes for their party, the kids have started to ask questions. They noted that most of the people’s political decisions were based on emotions rather than facts or logic. When my son said that I burst out in an uproarious laugh. How as it that a child under the age of eleven has it spot on but adults didn’t get it. I don’t know but somehow they did.

Talk and More Talk

 

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We kept talking until everything was settled.

 

After my heated encounter at the beach with Mr. Divine, I was…I’m not sure what I was but I was something. After my brainwashing, lol, I found myself sitting on the beach in Mr. Divine’s arms. There we talked and talked and kept talking about why I would allow my insecurities to creep in and talk over my mind.

I found it hard to explain but he wouldn’t let up, determined to understand what fueled my lack of trust. That was when I told him that Walter had left me from a woman I worked with who pretended to be my friend and who used to trick me into doing her work so she could leave early and be with my husband. That I suspected my husband used to talk my things and give to this woman and I explained about the free spa treatment I had been given that Walter had just taken.

I didn’t even know I was crying until Mr. Divine wiped the tears from my cheeks. Now I had sand on my face and was started to get cold. Taking my hand he pulled me up and lead me into the water.

“What are you wearing under that shirt and pants?” he asked.

“Not much,” I replied. “My husband has a habit of buying me racy lingerie and I miss him so I have been wearing them.”

“You are supposed to wear then all the time not just when you miss me,” said Mr. Divine flashing me a mischievous smile. “Off with those clothes. You can wear my shirts.”

I looked around the beach as he quickly unbuttoned his shirt and pulled if off. After pulling me further into the water until it was over my shoulders, Mr. Divine kissed me and I fell into the pleasure of being with him. We would be fine because we would work on being fine.

The Hidden Truth

 

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Mr. Divine’s kisses can make every problem disappear. 

 

What is the meaning of you manhandling me? I don’t appreciate it one bit.”

“Will I don’t appreciate you avoiding my calls for the last few days. What is going on? Talk to me.”

I said nothing, determined to stay angry.

“Lindsay, you and my children are one of the most important things in my life. Knowing how you are is a must. Right now I know something is wrong. Even the kids know something is wrong and told me.”

My eyes widened at his statement. The children knew that something that something was wrong…that was not good. I looked at Mr. Divine then looked away.

“This is ridiculous,” I heard Mr. Divine mutter before he pulled me out of the car and tossed me over his shoulder. We had driven to the beach after he pulled me out of work and we had been just sitting there, him talking, me trying not to listen. That was when he dragged me out of the jeep and heading toward the water. When I figured what he intended I started to scream and kick. That didn’t stop him and I ended up being tossed into the sea.

I came up swinging but Mr. Divine was not about to be deterred.

“Tell me what’s going on or you are going under again.”

I started to protect and Mr. Divine ducked me again and when I came up again I could see we were attracting attention. I tried to escape but it was futile and I was subjected to several more ducks until all I could do is cling to Mr. Divine.

“The women,” I gasped.

He held me tight, “What women?”

I pressed my head against his chest and tears of frustration started to run.

“The women who are all around you, always trying to get your attention.”

Gripping my chin he made me look up and focus on him.

“Look at me and listened very carefully. I married you, Lindsay. I waited all those years for the right woman and I married you. You are my woman and I will not violate your trust so get the idea out of your head right now and keep it out.”

There in the water, he kissed me long and deep. “Don’t ever give me the silent treatment again. We talk about things and move forward.”

“Okay,” I whispered against his chest, ashamed of what I had done. I had allowed the past to creep in the fester and like an opened infected wound it had tried to destroy me. I should have known better by now.

Married Life

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Sometimes you get in your own way.

One thing I know about marriage is that it isn’t easy to move your way forward, both the spouse and I have to be on the same page as well as reading the same line. That being said, Mr. Divine and I had our first disagreement of sorts. The fact that my husband traveled so often for work like a worm that was festering in the back of my mind. When he was away he was always in contact with both myself and the children, but its the fact he is not here that gets to me.  Add to that, my mind drifts to the fact I was clueless about what my Ex had been doing all those years and the insane scenarios start to take over my mind.

 

I was so in a grip of confusion that when Mr. Divine called, I made up so many stupid excuses not to talk to him. For most of his trip, I avoided his calls and stewed. I had let the past and all the things that my Ex had been doing and I didn’t know about and came up with the possibility that Mr. Divine may be doing that same thing to me. All the while I was in my head, the kids had spoken to Mr. Divine and he had cut his trip short. I was beyond shocked when he showed up and called me out of work.

All Revealed

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Like the rising sun, the situation could no longer be hidden.

 

“You see,” said Kylie. “I told you I’m not the only one he has been bugging. I guess their parents skipped coming to the school and went right to the police.”

The officer that came in, make that officers, were not street cops but high ranking officers. I guess someone had gone to the top with their complaint.

The officers looked around the room from our angry faces to the boy sitting in the corner of the room rocking back and forth crying.

“What is the issue here?” asked one of the officers.

“The young lady and her parents have said the boy has been giving her double,” said the principal.

“Define trouble,” said the other officer.

“Sexual assault,” said Kylie before the principal could replay.

“The girl is just exaggerating. The boy was just playing,” said Mr. X with a laugh.

“Playing? From the conversation I overheard my niece having and the bruises I saw on her arms and thighs when I got her to tell me what happened, this is no game.”

“Are you Nadisha’s uncle or Ashley’s? Those are the two girls  he has been bugging for the last two weeks.”

“No. My niece doesn’t go to school here. This incident happened on the bus last Friday.”

The officer took out a phone and showed the principle pictures. The man was visibly shocked.

Taking out a notebook the officer turned to my daughter.

“Can I have the names of those two other young ladies? We will need to talk to them. Can you tell us what happened.”

My daughter told her story including the part about the teacher doing nothing. The officers gave Mr. X. a long look and finally he has the look of shame on his face.

“From the magnitude of this situation we going to have to take this situation to the station. This involves too many girls and this is a dangerous situation.”

Saddened the principle nodded.

“On that note,” said Mr. Divine. “I would like my daughter’s transcripts before I leave. She is not coming back to this school. Not with a teacher who turns a blind eye to sexual assault. Never.

“I was shocked he took things as far as removing Kylie from school but I understood it. The safety of the children was always his first priority and for that I loved him.

It seemed like Kylie would be starting privet school later in the week. Mr. Divine moved that fast, that fast.

Movies that Matter – The 13th Warrior

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This is a movie I like to watch but so far I have not subjected my children to it. My main reason for holding off showing it to them is the huge amount of very realistic blood and gore portrayed. Despite that, I like the movie.

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This 1999 film stars Antonio Banderas, Vladimir Kulich and Omar Sharif and it is about a young man, played by Banderas, who falls for the wrong woman and this results in him being sent far away to serve as an ambassador as punishment. His life is now always in danger and as things become more complicated he stops at a Viking village and ends up being chosen to go on a quest with the new Viking ruler to help stop a mysterious threat in a faraway Viking territory.

The key thing I noted was that in the movie we have a man thrown into a situation where he doesn’t understand the language or the culture but he must battle with twelve other men to win a cause that is not his own. What struck me about this movie is the way the main character Antonio Banderas starts to learn and understand the language and culture of these people he has been placed with and in turn, they started to learn from him. The characters each started out with huge differences between then, but in the end, by living and working together their united knowledge and efforts prevailed against the terror that resulted in their quest.

Unity despite obvious differences. That is what I take from this movie and hold on to every time I watch it and when my kids are older we will watch it and have a debate to see what they think .

15 Minutes

15Minutes

The timer set and ready to go.

15 Minutes. It may seem like no time at all for many people, but for me, it’s going to be the difference being accomplished my goals or not. How so? I plan to take that time daily for each of the tasks I want to accomplish in my life. To make this happen it is going to take not only a lot of planning but also dedication. Not to mention that other thing I know I have to achieve.

I plan to give myself up to the sixth-month mark this year, but I intend to accomplish these tasks I have in mind. Each one, though small, will be like a shot in the machine of my life. It’s time to make some changes to and improve my machine. 15 minutes can make a huge difference and I plan to make it count.