Settling Into Place

SettlingIntoPlace

Free and ready for whatever comes next.

From our conversation on the beach, Mr. Divine and I have been doing a lot better. That talk seemed to have opened a floodgate of conversation to make sure that we are staying on track as a couple. We sit down and just try to talk about everything as much as possible and make sure we were on the right page or just the same page about the things that might be a complication.

With Kylie enjoyed her new school and both of them studying for upcoming exams, things were settling back into a quiet state in our home. A while back Kylie had told me was interested in taking several of her exams early so she had started to do extra lessons in preparation for those exams. That had been going well and it was a major help towards her applications into university.

The children’s sporting activities have brought back up the question of the possibility of them having the opportunity to move to another country so they can further their education and ranking in the sport. We all had a long talk and the plan is to wait for Kylie’s results and see if there is any early interest from the universities that she wants to go to. Her swim coach has also been looking into scholarships at her choice universities and several other schools that would teach the courses that interest her. We would know the results in a few months and from there we would revisit the idea of moving as a family or if we would let Kylie go off on her own and have an adventure. Time would tell.

Christmas Past

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Some of the Christmas decorations that were to be seen as we drove out and about.

 

This is the last of my catch-up post and from now on things will be about what is going on right now, as well as short and sweet.

When Christmas came last year, things were a buzz of excitement in my house. I’m used to the kids being excited for this time of year, but this time it was like they were almost jumping out of their skin for the season to come. They were so eager they started to get the house ready even before I asked. In fact, they were asking me, and by the 3rd of December they had the house decorated on the outside and were urging me to get a live Christmas tree so they could decorate it. I got it and by the next weekend we had the tree up.

Mr. Divine has been traveling for the past three weeks and he came home the same time as the tree was going up. He dropped everything and helped us and we ended up having an amazing time putting that tree together. When we were done, we got out a tub of ice cream and enjoyed the lights as they flickered against the walls. It was the perfect way to end our night.

With Mr. Divine here, several events were added to our Christmas social calendar. It was interesting, the huge difference in the types of social experiences my children and I now encountered because of being his wife. I have done more socializing with him in the last year than I did in my pass marriage of just over eighteen years. It was an uplifting experience. We also went to my mother’s house and had the most amazing time. When she had first met Mr. Divine, she took him aside and had a long talk. It seems she decided to give him a top-up on the previous talk for Christmas. From whatever he said to her she was content and came back to us with a huge smile on her face.

We had a wild family-filled and social Christmas last year and from what I understand they have already started planning what we are going to do for Easter this year. I can hardly wait.  To me, this is what life is supposed to be about, family, love and happiness.

Socializing

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A concert can really make a good day better.

In the past, I never went anywhere, but with my husband leaving me and coming to the realization that I was almost a recluse I started to take steps to change that. Things had changed a  lot in the past few years and I must admit by the time my divorce was final I had developed an active social life. Now I attended concerts, exhibitions and various other types of events by myself or with the kids and each one was uniquely amazing. Now that I have married, things have changed.

I still go out to these types of events but now I also go to what I consider as business networking events with Mr. Divine. I have learnt that to know what the movers and shakers are doing in the business and money making area, we needed to go where they were. So now, along with the going out for pleasure, we also go out several times a month to business events. We are meeting a lot of interesting people and discovering so many new and exciting business prospects. I’m excited about and enjoy this new type of going out. Learning a lot and loving it. I can hardly wait for my next event to expand my knowledge and plan my next possible business venture.

Step, Step, Step

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There is always something new around the corner.

Time is flying so fast it is scary. One more day and the month is over…shocking. When I look back at what I…we, have done so far for the year it is reason enough to be truly happy. The martial arts classes are going well. Good fun. Learning how to fall without getting hurt, how to block punches…blows in general. The highlight was when we watched Mr. Divine and his friend fighting to give us a visual of what Krav Maga looks like. It was an epic experience and genuinely beautiful to see. I now understand why Mr. Divine wants us to learn this method of self-defence.

The kids swimming is still going well and Kylie is looking into college overseas. Her swimming has the potential to get her a sports scholarship so we are investigating what schools she might be interested in going to. We’ll spend the next few months trying to find the best fit for her. Some might say why so early but time is flinging by and we have no desire to lose an opportunity due to lack of investigation or not having time to do what needs to be done. Both kids will be moving to new schools in the coming school year so along with sports, they have been catching up with their school work. They are managing their workloads so far and we help whenever needed. We are getting there…yes, we are. Step by step by step.

Settling In

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Things are slowly falling into place.

 

I’m back from my honeymoon but I might as well not be. The buzz is in full control and I’m walking around like I’m a permanent resident of cloud 9. The kids are happy we are back and eager to hear where we went and what we got up to. We gave them an edited version of our trip and they were overjoyed that we got to see so many places in a short timespan.

Now we are back home, we only have two weeks before we plan to leave for a trip as a family. Part of the trip is for us to see Mr. Divine’s house as well as taking Kyle to see some colleges. Then we are going to spend a few days enjoying the theme parks in Florida. It will be a lot of driving and flying but that was going to be all a part of the fun of getting there.

The kids had an amazing time while we were away. They spent their days with friends and family, exploring and relaxing. When we got back home, we had a fun time exchanging stories and sharing pictures. I really had an enjoyable time on that trip. Flying along on the zipline in St. Kitts, jumping off cliff rock and rope swings into breathtaking lagoons of water in more than one beautiful port. Mr. Divine truly indulged mt inner water baby.

Now we are married, Mr. Divine was officially moving into my house. we decided it was easier for one of him to move rather than three of us. We also took into account that the location of my house made it easier for all of us to get to and from work and play easier. The plan was to put his house up for rent with one of the island’s real estate agents that would also maintain and look after the property. If we left the country as a family, that was also the plan air-marked for my house. I have learnt that passive income and making my money work for me is key to building wealth.

I had thought it would be difficult to get used to Mr. Divine always being there, but if I really thought about it, he was by our house more often than not. I had gotten used to more help in the kitchen and around the house. My daughter would smile her little happy smile whenever Mr. Divine did anything sweet and loving, making me know that her opinion of men had not been warped by her father’s horrible, inexcusable actions. My children now had a role model who could help to shape their opinions of right and wrong.

Another thing I noted was that Mr. Divine Didn’t have an excessive amount of clothes and what he did have was high-end of exceptional quality. I questioned him one day to understand the reason for his choices. He explained he discovered when he bought cheaper, for example, shirts. He discovered he had to buy new shirts sooner due to wear and tear. When he bought a little more expensive, they lasted longer. He explained that over time he learned how to buy expensive for less, so now he had the best of both worlds. I was discovering and learning new tricks every day.

When Mr. Divine moved in with us we also decided to do a thorough cleaning of the house. Everything that belonged to Walter that was still in the house we packed in bags and boxes, called the police officers we dealt with in the past, plus our lawyer and his lawyer and made sure the fact I was giving him back what was his, was documented. I even sent him the old lawn mower he bought years ago that stopped working. Any gift he bought me/the house I got rid of too.

In fact, I wanted to get rid of every item of furniture or thing that reminded me of our marriage. It was like some delayed reaction where I just wanted to purge him fully from my life. Mr. Divine and the kids had to calm me down. I had planned of remodeling but they had drifted into the background when other things took a more important place in my life.

“If we are going to renovate then it;s going to have to be well thought out,” said Mr. Divine hugging me close and rubbing my back.

I took a deep breath and tried to calm myself while I considered what Mr. Divine was saying. recently any thought of Walter would just bring the anger boiling up in me and this was no different. In the past, I had gotten to a place where I didn’t even think about Walter or I wasn’t bothered if I heard about him but that had changed because of the recent incidents I’ve had to deal with involving him. I had to work once more at extinguishing him from my life.

“How about we pull out the old ideas we were working on for the house. Have a serious look at them. Look at the other plans we have in play for our lives and make some decisions from there,” I said.

The kids nodded and I relaxed into the couch as they went towards their rooms to plan. The house was just a tiny part of a huge picture and we would look at everything before a decision was made. Sometimes good comes from a supposedly bad situation but it was a matter of finding the good of the situation and working with it. That’s what I’ll do. Re-adjust my attitude and go after what I wanted because that was life.

Kicking Butt

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Martial Arts class is so much fun.

 

Martial Arts class is looking to be a truly exciting and I’m looking forward to my next class to see what I’ll be taught. Kylie came home almost bursting with excitement when she found out the guy would be teaching us, Krav Maga. She is hooked on NCIS at the moment and is in awe of Ziva, so to learn to fight like her would be like double icing on a cake.

I’ve also been watching Shane to making sure he is going okay. He is growing so big, getting so mature. I glad Mr. Divine is there to show him how to be a strong man of integrity, yet remind him of the joys of a boy. I’m so happy there is now a ‘strong’ male figure in his life that he can look up to who makes sure he knows more than just right from wrong but can analyse and discover the truth of situations. My babies are growing up.

The Big Day

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The photographer captured this beautiful memory.

 

It is funny that I’m starting the year playing catch up. Right now I still telling the part of the story of what had happened to me last year, but I want to make sure I’m getting everything down correctly so it is taking time. In truth I don’t mind because I rather get my story out right, than quick. So on to the main event.

When my wedding day dawned, I was fighting with every cell in my body to remain calm. It wasn’t that I was frightened but that I was excited for what’s to come. True I have been married before but I went into that situation with blinders on. No, make that blindfolded,

Anyway. For my special day, I was determined to be chilled and happy so I arranged for a massage that stripped every ounce of tension from my body. I’ve never experienced anything so amazing. It’s a good thing I choose to get that massage in my hotel room so all I had to do was to roll off of the massage table and get into the bed.

When I finally woke up on my wedding day, the sun was shining and it was flawlessly beautiful outside. I turned over almost limp but rested and content. My sister came in and found me chilling on my bed with a stupid, happy smile all over my face.

“Well, there is no need to ask you if you are good. If your smile got any wider your cheeks would split,” said Linda.

With a laugh, I threw off my sheet and got out of bed to be hugging by my sister. It was good to have her here and happy to be a part of my wedding because at the last one everyone was tense and angry.

“This is the right one finally Lindsay,” said my sister. “I’m sorry you had to endure such a horrible marriage for so long but you have found the right guy now.”

Linda hugged me tight before he held away from her by the shoulders before pulling me close and hugging me again. I tried not to think too much about her words, only about the good place I was in. To me, that was all that mattered today.

From then on a flurry of activity began. I got a shower and as my breakfast arrived so did the photographer. Then it was down to business. I got a manicure, pedicure, and mini-massage while the others got their nails and hair done. Then it was my turn and I closed my eyes and floated off to a quiet place as the hairdresser did my hair. I refused to look in the mirror and let everything come together. Hair, nails, make-up and finally the dress that took my breath away in that shop in New York.

I closed my eyes and let the others dress me until finally when everything was in place I turned around and looked into the mirror. I could hardly believe I was seeing my own reflection in front of me. I looked so different. That was when I finally looked around the room and saw my daughter looking like a storybook princess in her dress. It took every ounce of my mental strength not to cry off that makeup.

“Kylie baby you look so beautiful.” She hugged me with a wide smile.

“You too mommy. You look like…I can’t find the words. Amazing is just too simple a word for how good you look.”

“Thank you, Kylie. Thank you for helping me to get this dress. If it wasn’t for you I don’t know what I would be wearing.”

Around us, the photographer was clicking away and I slipped back into my happy daze as the time came for me to make my way to my groom.

The actual ceremony was set to take place on the beach and rather heels I wore a pair of white sandals with glitter and sequins. When I got to the top of the aisle to walk down, the beauty of what was before me took my breath away.

The flowers that were around the arch, along with the cream coloured tulle that flowed in the wind gave the beach a fairy tail atmosphere. I looked down the aisle and in front of that arch was the man I was about to marry, Mr. Divine. Our guest stood as I stepped onto the aisle of rose petals and began to walk towards my man.

When I reached Mr. Divine and slipped my hand into his, everything felt right. On that beautiful beach, I said my vows and joined my life with this amazing man. I have never felt so happy in all my life. Not even when I got married before had it felt so good.

The day was a blur but the key thing I remember was that I was so happy about everything. As we said our vows I had to fight not to cry but several tears escaped. Mr. Divine wiped each of them away and when he kissed me as we were named husband and wife those tears just dried right up. I was starting a new part of my life, with an amazing man, and I could hardly wait.

Off the Rails

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Walter ended up before the judge…again.

There is a bit more to the story about when Walter started getting on stupid when he found out that Mr. Divine had proposed to me. Yes, he was livid when I told him that Walter has called and started berating me about my decision to get married again. The anger shifted to livid when we were at home having a games night with the kids and Walter had the audacity to turn up at my house. On boy. 

We were so engrossed in the game we didn’t even know someone was outside of the house. It was only when a loud banging started to shake the front door that let us know someone was there. Mr. Divine gave me a look and we moved cautiously to the door. The kids went to the small windows next to the door to look outside and my daughter looked back at me wide-eyed.

“I know you are in there Lindsay you bitch. You must be out of your mind if you think you can just leave me and get married. I say what you can do.”

The kids looked at me in confusion. Anger filled my daughter’s face and she moved towards the telephone and started to make a call. A crash of broken glass resounded.

Mr. Divine opened the door to see Walter with a rock in his hand about to throw it through the side window of his jeep. The crash we had heard before was a rock going through the windscreen of the jeep and when Walter saw that the door was open he rushed at us, rock in hand. Walter came at us screaming threats and for once what he said just washed over me. I was more concerned about the danger he potentially posed to all of us.

Walter threw the rock and we all ducked. It broke the window next to the door and I heard a shout of shock. I looked back to make sure the kids were alright but I was also trying to keep an eye on Mr. Divine. I didn’t know what was going on with Walter because as nasty as I had seen him behave, I had never known him to become violent. I watched the rage flowing off of Walter and I shouted for Mr. Divine to be careful.

Then to my shock, Mr. Divine stood there was Walter came at him cursing and yell and took a punch to the face. I cried out in shock but Mr. Divine calmly told me to stay back. What then unfolded was like something out of a movie. Mr. Divine leaped into the air and came down delivering a punch that knocked Walter out cold. When Walter crumpled onto the ground  Mr. Divine turned and walked up to me and pulled me into his arms for a mind sapping kiss. He reached for the kids and hugged them as well.

I was still in Mr. Divine arms when a police car pulled up. One of them moved to Walter who was still unconscious on the ground and the other came cautiously to us.

“Good night, madam, sir. We got a call about a domestic disturbance.  What is going on?”

My daughter came forward and stood in front of us. “I called you. My father just turned up here and started cursing, yelling and breaking things. He threw a rock at us and broke the window and he hit my mother’s fianceé.”

“Young lady let me speak to the adults.”

Mr. Divine turned and looked at the officer and took my hand and started to move towards the house.

“Sir. Madam. What happened here?”

Mr. Divine pointed to Kyle. “The young lady called you. She can tell you what happened. After you take her statement then you can question me. I’m going inside to get some ice and call my lawyer.”

On the ground, Walter finally started to regain consciousness. One of the officers went to him while the other called for an ambulance. A few minutes later the officer came to the door and cleared his throat. The kids looked at Mr. Divine and when he finally acknowledged the officer he pointed to the children.

“Like I said before, take their statement first then we’ll talk.”

The officer still hesitated and Mr. Divine got up. “Since you don’t want to take the kids statement. You can wait until my lawyer gets here. Then you can take everyone’s statement.”

The officer was not pleased by this change of events but that is how thing went from there on. The lawyer came forty-five minutes later and by then the officers had gotten the statement from our neighbors and an irate Walter who the ambulance had dealt with or left. He was now sitting down in the back of the police car waiting.

When the lawyer came, he insisted on talking to us first and we told him what happened. After we were done, he called in the officer.

“So what happened here?”

The lawyer pointed to the kids.

“We were all inside playing  Cashflow. I was winning and we were having fun when suddenly there was a loud banging on the door. Then we heard someone screaming and after we got up and moved towards the door I realized it was my father.”

“He was screaming nasty things about my mother. Nasty things about the fact mom was getting remarried. That was when I went to get the phone to call the police while I watched what was going on through the window.

Before I got back to the window to look out there was a crash. When I got the window mom’s fiancé was standing outside the door. It seems our dad had thrown a rock through the window of his jeep. He has another rock in his hand. When he saw mom’s fiancé at the door he rushed at him and threw the rock. We all ducked and the rock broke the window.” Kyla pointed to the broken window and the rock on the floor.

“He rushed at mom’s fiancé and punched him. Mom’s fiancé punched him back. It knocked him right out. You found him where he fell.”

Has anything like this happened before?”

“There was one incident at my workplace,” I said. “The police was called it was brought to the courts. He has been getting progressively…problematic. We have also been having problems with him and the children. It’s been getting very difficult.”

The officer closed his notebook and tapped the cover with his pen.

“Madam, how long have you left your husband?”

I sat up and looked the officer in the eye. “You need to get it right. He left me. Walked out and left me, us for another woman. Told me he had filed for a divorce. He left me more than two to three years ago. He made me miserable all during my marriage and has been trying to do the same thing since the divorce was made final months ago.”

“Okay madam. We will be taking your ex down to the station and charging him with assault and damage to property.”

“I’m sure we can find a few more things to charge him with,” said the lawyer. “He has become a constant problem for my clients. We will be coming to the station in the morning to give an official statement.”

The officer nodded and the lawyer went with him to the door. When he came back he sat down and discussed our options. Charges had to be laid or Walter would continue to be a problem. I didn’t want things to come to this point but I need to go on with my life.

We ended up at the station and in court the next day. Our lawyer was swinging a heavy bat and when we walked out Walter had been charged and faced possible jail time. The fact that he had an incident before would mean this time he would be going to jail for sure. He also had to stay away from us. Time would reveal the outcome but no matter what my children and I were getting on with our lives.

Fireworks

 

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Some of the fireworks on display.

 

Oh my goodness we had so much fun last night and yesterday. We went to the beach to watch the fireworks and when we got home in the wee hours of the morning piled onto the floor to play board games. We barely made it to our beds. It was truly an amazing. When we finally got up the next day we went to my mother’s house and spent the day with my family just being together, laughing having a good time. It was a good way to start the year and it’s exactly what I needed.

Happy New Year

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Happy New Year to all my followers.

 

As the new year begins I’m eager for what is to come. Not only do the kids, Mr. Divine and I have plans for an exciting year, but I also plan to make several changes to my blog. Not only will I be making my usual blog post, but expect mini-post between post, book reviews, videos and other little bit and bobs that highlight what I have been up to. I look forward to sharing more with you as I continue to discover new things every day.

Along with these post, I think I’ll be starting a new story on my WattPad page. It’s just an idea so far and I still have a long way to go before I finalise the plot or at least be sure about the general direction I want the story to take. It will be interesting but I found a true joy in writing and I can’t wait to start this adventure.

I look forward to sharing all these different things with you and hope you enjoy them. Comment, and let me know what you think and I’ll be more than happy to reply. Have an amazing year everyone. Go after your dreams like I am intending to. Dream hunting is one of the most fulfilling things you can do so go for it.