Next Step

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My children love Berlin. Love, love, love it. Photo by Markus Spiske on Unsplash

While we were away indulging out wanderlust we were keeping track of the next steps we wanted to take in our lives but we were not about to let that distract us from having a good time. The news we had been waiting for reached us during our three-day stopover in Berlin. Kylie got several emails about grades, school and the scholarships she has applied for. From there we put things into place while we continued our trip through Europe. All the necessary information was forwarded to the schools the children wanted to go to so things would be in place when we got back home.

The trip became even more exciting now we got the news about the kids going to the schools of their choice. As we traveled we allowed the children to the take the lead more so they could strengthen their navigation skills in a big and times more complication environment. They helped each other, figuring out how to uses maps and find out information in a country where they didn’t speak the language.

“I’m really enjoying this mom,” said Kylie as she tiptoed and looked through the crowd to see more of the stalls set up at Kunstmarkt, a huge flea market in Berlin.

“There is so much history and culture here. I think going to school here would be a lot more interesting than the US.

Mr. Divine laughed at her remark. “That is probably very true. We can check and see if your university offers a study abroad program. Another option is to do your Master’s Degree or make sure your first job is in Europe.”

“Can I do that?” she asked excitingly.

“Yes,” Mr. Divine replied as she held his arm and looked up him in awe.

“It’s time for both you and Shane to dream big and discover the world. Strengthen your language skills and travel.”

The kids looked at each other and nodded. Their excitement visible. They both had their sights set on choosing a new skill they wanted to discover and develop, plus the fire to go after it. I can’t wait to see what language or languages they choose.

 

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Discover Europe

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Artwork and architecture on a building in Milan, Italy.

Mr. Divine has brought us on a trip across the pond and when we drove out of the airport we were all smiles. Yes, the kids and I were beach babies, but we also loved to explore and discover. Right now we are in London with its blend of old and new all hidden in countless nooks and crannies just waiting to be discovered. It called to use us to explore. First, we took a tour on an opened top double-decker bus all around the city. From that, the kids took a note of the places they wanted to revisit.

 

We visited so many spots. Somehow we got in more than ten of the must see places to visit. As we bid London goodbye, Mr. Divine took a note of our sad faces.

“Don’t worry. We’ll be back again soon,” he assured us as we boarded a fast train to Scotland. When we got to Edinburgh we took in the crisp, fresh air, eager for more to discover.  We started on the Royal Mile and just rambled. After several hours we had visited The Writers’ Museum, Queen Mary’s Bath House, Scottish Storytelling Centre, Victoria Terrace and of course the Scotch Whisky Experience. The next day we took a day trip to  Loch Ness that also stopped at Glencoe and the best part is that it allowed us to discover the Highlands. The vistas we saw were truly breathtaking.

The trip didn’t end there, in fact, it had only just begun. We spent the next three weeks roaming through Europe. First, we went to Paris, then to Madrid, across to Barcelona, a stop in Marseille to see the views from the Basilique Notre – Dame de la Garde. In Monaco, we went to Jardin Exotique and Palais du Prince. We continued ongoing from one major city to the next until we had seen most of Western Europe.

We had the most amazing time on that trip and the truly amazing things we saw changed our opinions and impressions of the world. I’m sure there will be other trips like this in the near future and I can hardly wait until we all go to another. Along with the discovery and adventure, we enjoyed the togetherness and uninterrupted family time. It’s an experience we will never forget and are eager to repeat.

Summer Fun

 

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Tell me we are going on a cruise and my cases are packed.

Oh Goodness me! I now realize how far behind I am about what has been happening so I’m going to try extra hard to get you, my amazing readers, back up to date about what’s going on. We all had an amazing summer even though things were in limbo. The issue that has us unable to fully sit, stand or turnaround, is that we’re waiting to find out about the children’s next step when it comes to school. To take our minds off for that complicated bit of information, Mr. Divine decided we should all go on a trip and indulge in some adventure.

The next thing I knew, we were packing to go on a two-week cruise of the Caribbean. It ended up being one of the most enjoyable parts of the summer vacation. Like I said, only one of them because my lovely husband always has something up his sleeve. Our days were spent going on various tours that allowed us to discover the most amazing locations. We saw so many unique places and discovered so much information about each island we visited, it captivated us.

Every day the kids were up early and ready to scamper off and discover. Sometimes we went out together or they would spend the day with the new friends they met on the boat. No matter what, we always had dinner together every night. I had some serious foodies for children and dinner was our time to try new things. It was filled with pure fun and laughter. Dinner was our time to talk and recap the day. We would plan what we wanted to do for the coming days and to seek out new adventures. Whenever possible, the children had to get in some beach time. They were true water babies and the beach makes them happy.

When that cruise ended we were all a little sad, but it ended with new friends and the potential for more adventure right around the corner. Let the fun begin.

15 Minutes

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The timer set and ready to go.

15 Minutes. It may seem like no time at all for many people, but for me, it’s going to be the difference being accomplished my goals or not. How so? I plan to take that time daily for each of the tasks I want to accomplish in my life. To make this happen it is going to take not only a lot of planning but also dedication. Not to mention that other thing I know I have to achieve.

I plan to give myself up to the sixth-month mark this year, but I intend to accomplish these tasks I have in mind. Each one, though small, will be like a shot in the machine of my life. It’s time to make some changes to and improve my machine. 15 minutes can make a huge difference and I plan to make it count.

Step Two

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The kids relaxing between stops.

Everything at our house is as settled as it can be and everyone is ready to escape away on vacation. We are scheduled to leave for Atlanta in two days and it is arranged that my sister and one of my brothers will make periodic visits to the house. Knowing they would do that gave me a peace of mind.

 

Excitement was pulsing through the children when we got on the plane and by the time we got off it was like they were about to burst. Our first stop was at Mr. Divine’s house and when we drove up his driveway my breath was taken away. The house was a huge ranch style property with oversized windows and a wrap around porch. I loved it at first sight and when we opened the doors and went inside we greeted by wide open, uncluttered room with amazing furniture and fixtures.

Exhausted we were pleasantly surprised to find a fuller stocked fridge and better yet a warm meal in the oven waiting for us. Mr. Divine explained that he had a housekeeper that came twice a week when he was out of the country and every other day when he was home. He had called ahead and she had made sure that everything would be ready and waiting for us. We crashed that night, and when we work up in the morning and headed to the kitchen we were meet by the smells of breakfast being cooked. There we met Nina, a pleasant older woman who worked for Mr. Divine for the past ten years looking after him and his house.

“So you are the woman who stole my boss’s heart. You take care of him now,” she warned before turning back to the bacon she was frying in the pan.

I smiled and I knew she could see it in the flawless shine of the backsplash behind the stainless steel stovetop.

“Yes Nina,” I said sincerely. “I would be stupid not take care of the good man I’ve been gifted with. He is a rare and priceless treasure.”

She watched my reflection for several moments before she went back to her cooking and I got the plates and started setting the table for breakfast.

After breakfast, the exploration began. We spent several days in Atlanta and the nearby environs exploring and seeing what was available. From there we started out our road trip, making a roundabout way to Florida. There we visited the Theme Parks, the Everglades and even took the chance to go to The Keys. It was amazing and we loved every minute of the driving, discovering and exploring.

While in Florida we also stopped at three of the universities that offered swim scholarships and visited their campsite and found out as much as we could about their programs. The kids were as excited as when they went to see the universities in Atlanta. From there we drove from Florida to New York stopping to visit the sites and the NCAA1 rated universities along the way.

When we got to New York we paused and some sightseeing. After all, we were in New York City and there was a lot to see. We visited every site we could, then go the train up to Washington D. C. From there it was more exploring and taking in the sights.

This was the most intense and amazing trip I’ve ever been on and we kept going until we finished off in Toronto, Canada. As we relaxed and had lunch one afternoon, we talked to the kids to see what they enjoyed most about the trip and the places we visited.

“Do we have to decide?” was the question we got in reply.

From that, all we could conclude was that we had given the kids the travel bug and they had it bad.

“That was the most amazing trip I’ve been on,” insisted Kyle and Shane nodded in agreement.

“Can we do something like that again but maybe in Europe?”

Mr. Divine and I laughed. We’ll see what can happen”

When we boarded the plane on the way back to Atlanta we were chatting and planning for what next. Where to take a trip to and what colleges were worth a more intense look at. We loved every minute of that trip and I couldn’t wait to do another one.

Socializing

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A concert can really make a good day better.

In the past, I never went anywhere, but with my husband leaving me and coming to the realization that I was almost a recluse I started to take steps to change that. Things had changed a  lot in the past few years and I must admit by the time my divorce was final I had developed an active social life. Now I attended concerts, exhibitions and various other types of events by myself or with the kids and each one was uniquely amazing. Now that I have married, things have changed.

I still go out to these types of events but now I also go to what I consider as business networking events with Mr. Divine. I have learnt that to know what the movers and shakers are doing in the business and money making area, we needed to go where they were. So now, along with the going out for pleasure, we also go out several times a month to business events. We are meeting a lot of interesting people and discovering so many new and exciting business prospects. I’m excited about and enjoy this new type of going out. Learning a lot and loving it. I can hardly wait for my next event to expand my knowledge and plan my next possible business venture.

Family Getaway

I’m skipping forward a bit but here is what we got up to on a trip. We spent a few days in Canada just to see if the children might want to consider going there for college. Click the link to see the video of a part of our adventures. Let me know what you think.

Step, Step, Step

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There is always something new around the corner.

Time is flying so fast it is scary. One more day and the month is over…shocking. When I look back at what I…we, have done so far for the year it is reason enough to be truly happy. The martial arts classes are going well. Good fun. Learning how to fall without getting hurt, how to block punches…blows in general. The highlight was when we watched Mr. Divine and his friend fighting to give us a visual of what Krav Maga looks like. It was an epic experience and genuinely beautiful to see. I now understand why Mr. Divine wants us to learn this method of self-defence.

The kids swimming is still going well and Kylie is looking into college overseas. Her swimming has the potential to get her a sports scholarship so we are investigating what schools she might be interested in going to. We’ll spend the next few months trying to find the best fit for her. Some might say why so early but time is flinging by and we have no desire to lose an opportunity due to lack of investigation or not having time to do what needs to be done. Both kids will be moving to new schools in the coming school year so along with sports, they have been catching up with their school work. They are managing their workloads so far and we help whenever needed. We are getting there…yes, we are. Step by step by step.

Settling In

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Things are slowly falling into place.

 

I’m back from my honeymoon but I might as well not be. The buzz is in full control and I’m walking around like I’m a permanent resident of cloud 9. The kids are happy we are back and eager to hear where we went and what we got up to. We gave them an edited version of our trip and they were overjoyed that we got to see so many places in a short timespan.

Now we are back home, we only have two weeks before we plan to leave for a trip as a family. Part of the trip is for us to see Mr. Divine’s house as well as taking Kyle to see some colleges. Then we are going to spend a few days enjoying the theme parks in Florida. It will be a lot of driving and flying but that was going to be all a part of the fun of getting there.

The kids had an amazing time while we were away. They spent their days with friends and family, exploring and relaxing. When we got back home, we had a fun time exchanging stories and sharing pictures. I really had an enjoyable time on that trip. Flying along on the zipline in St. Kitts, jumping off cliff rock and rope swings into breathtaking lagoons of water in more than one beautiful port. Mr. Divine truly indulged mt inner water baby.

Now we are married, Mr. Divine was officially moving into my house. we decided it was easier for one of him to move rather than three of us. We also took into account that the location of my house made it easier for all of us to get to and from work and play easier. The plan was to put his house up for rent with one of the island’s real estate agents that would also maintain and look after the property. If we left the country as a family, that was also the plan air-marked for my house. I have learnt that passive income and making my money work for me is key to building wealth.

I had thought it would be difficult to get used to Mr. Divine always being there, but if I really thought about it, he was by our house more often than not. I had gotten used to more help in the kitchen and around the house. My daughter would smile her little happy smile whenever Mr. Divine did anything sweet and loving, making me know that her opinion of men had not been warped by her father’s horrible, inexcusable actions. My children now had a role model who could help to shape their opinions of right and wrong.

Another thing I noted was that Mr. Divine Didn’t have an excessive amount of clothes and what he did have was high-end of exceptional quality. I questioned him one day to understand the reason for his choices. He explained he discovered when he bought cheaper, for example, shirts. He discovered he had to buy new shirts sooner due to wear and tear. When he bought a little more expensive, they lasted longer. He explained that over time he learned how to buy expensive for less, so now he had the best of both worlds. I was discovering and learning new tricks every day.

When Mr. Divine moved in with us we also decided to do a thorough cleaning of the house. Everything that belonged to Walter that was still in the house we packed in bags and boxes, called the police officers we dealt with in the past, plus our lawyer and his lawyer and made sure the fact I was giving him back what was his, was documented. I even sent him the old lawn mower he bought years ago that stopped working. Any gift he bought me/the house I got rid of too.

In fact, I wanted to get rid of every item of furniture or thing that reminded me of our marriage. It was like some delayed reaction where I just wanted to purge him fully from my life. Mr. Divine and the kids had to calm me down. I had planned of remodeling but they had drifted into the background when other things took a more important place in my life.

“If we are going to renovate then it;s going to have to be well thought out,” said Mr. Divine hugging me close and rubbing my back.

I took a deep breath and tried to calm myself while I considered what Mr. Divine was saying. recently any thought of Walter would just bring the anger boiling up in me and this was no different. In the past, I had gotten to a place where I didn’t even think about Walter or I wasn’t bothered if I heard about him but that had changed because of the recent incidents I’ve had to deal with involving him. I had to work once more at extinguishing him from my life.

“How about we pull out the old ideas we were working on for the house. Have a serious look at them. Look at the other plans we have in play for our lives and make some decisions from there,” I said.

The kids nodded and I relaxed into the couch as they went towards their rooms to plan. The house was just a tiny part of a huge picture and we would look at everything before a decision was made. Sometimes good comes from a supposedly bad situation but it was a matter of finding the good of the situation and working with it. That’s what I’ll do. Re-adjust my attitude and go after what I wanted because that was life.

Kicking Butt

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Martial Arts class is so much fun.

 

Martial Arts class is looking to be a truly exciting and I’m looking forward to my next class to see what I’ll be taught. Kylie came home almost bursting with excitement when she found out the guy would be teaching us, Krav Maga. She is hooked on NCIS at the moment and is in awe of Ziva, so to learn to fight like her would be like double icing on a cake.

I’ve also been watching Shane to making sure he is going okay. He is growing so big, getting so mature. I glad Mr. Divine is there to show him how to be a strong man of integrity, yet remind him of the joys of a boy. I’m so happy there is now a ‘strong’ male figure in his life that he can look up to who makes sure he knows more than just right from wrong but can analyse and discover the truth of situations. My babies are growing up.